In this conversation, Kayla and Amy Julia (AJ) Cheyfitz Sex Therapist and Licensed Counselor to discuss the intersection of fatness and kink. They provide an overview of kink and BDSM, highlighting the broad range of behaviors and the importance of destigmatizing them. Amy Julia shares her experience as a larger-bodied individual in the kink community, noting the lack of representation and the need for more diverse body types in kink-related media. They also touch on the challenges of finding clothing that is comfortable for individuals with sensory issues and the importance of considering intersectionalities in discussions of kink and fatness. In this part of the conversation, AJ Cheyfitz discusses her experiences in the film industry and how it shaped her relationship with her body. She also talks about studying ASL and how the term 'fat' is neutral in that context. She then shares her experiences in the kink community and how it helped her have a changed relationship with her body. The kink community provides a space where there is a wide variety of bodies and no judgment or separation based on body size. Amy Julia also emphasizes the importance of diversifying one's feed and accessing more narratives about all bodies. In this conversation, AJ Cheyfitz and Kayla discuss the intersection of kink and fatness. They explore the challenges faced by individuals in larger bodies when it comes to communication, societal narratives around relationships and compatibility, and the role of trauma in kink. They also touch on the importance of understanding one's needs, desires, and worth when entering kink spaces, and provide resources for further exploration.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Fat Positive Everything podcast
06:25 Challenges of Finding Comfortable Clothing
09:31 Intersectionalities and Identities
14:01 Overview of Kink and BDSM
17:41 Amy Julia's Experience in the Kink Community
19:11 Lack of Representation in Kink-Related Media
19:40 Navigating Body Image in the Film Industry
21:35 Finding Acceptance in the Kink Community
23:30 Diversity in the Kink Community
26:35 Empowering Through Diverse Narratives
39:35 The Importance of Consent in the Kink Community
43:07 Introduction to the Intersection of Kink and Fatness
45:55 Societal Narratives and Communication Challenges in Relationships
50:17 Trauma and its Impact on Kink and Relationships
52:26 Exploring Power Dynamics and Taboo Elements in Kink
57:47 Creating Safety and Advocating for Oneself in Kink Spaces
01:01:20 Resources for Further Exploration of Kink and Fatness
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